Comments on: Is This Really God’s Best?

By: Kieran Smith

Kieran Smith — Tue, 21 Jul 2009 01:07:06 +0000

Thank you so much for posting this!! It brought tears to my eyes because it seems as if you had looked into my life these past few months and wrote this. Blessings on your house and further work.

By: Julia

Julia — Wed, 15 Apr 2009 00:32:59 +0000

Definitely SO wise.

I can speak from experience when I say that “changing the channel” or “ignoring” thoughts is no easy feat. It takes a lot of thought and determination at first. Our bodies are so used to indulging in worry and imaginary stories/future situations that breaking the habit can sometimes feel like we are forgetting to do something. As if, when we haven’t worried and considered ALL the possibilities, something will inevitably go wrong.

Now, I am trying to remember each time that I begin to over analyze something, that God has already written my story. And I can make my plans, but he will guide my footsteps. So why bother with the worry?

Wish it was easier said than done…but I’m working on it! God’s teaching me, and guiding me to Posts like this one.

By: Donna

Donna — Sat, 04 Oct 2008 03:15:12 +0000

Wow as I was sitting here crying and looking through your blog anyway, I was evidently led to read this because these are the very things I was shedding tears over:).

Praise God for His love and His mercy, even His chastening is and can feel good!:)

By: Ruth Turner

Ruth Turner — Mon, 30 Apr 2007 14:20:29 +0000

I think you could cut and paste 99% of this into a study for married women as well. Thanks for the wise words.

By: Felicity

Felicity — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 05:21:55 +0000

Thank you for this great post. I fall into worry alot and recently have started ‘Changing Channels’ (by focussing on God through scripture verse or song) when worry or fear about the future starts to develop in my thoughts. It is such a comfort and relief that God only give us each day what we can bear and when we cast all our cares on him and trust in what we know to be true. My load is indeed lighter when God I focus on what is true and righteous.

By: Claire Martens

Claire Martens — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 03:09:05 +0000

I’m hardly old enough to worry about being an old maid, but I still appreciated this. Thank you so much for posting it!

By: DrLiz

DrLiz — Thu, 26 Apr 2007 03:14:38 +0000

My only objection is that the inference could be made, especially from your second-to-last paragraph, that “living in disobedience” is what is keeping the single woman from the “happy ending” or “blessing” of marriage. The problem is that this would imply that married women have this blessing of marriage because they are living in obedience.

I’m pretty sure you don’t mean to imply this, as it borders on a version of the prosperity gospel (with marriage as prosperity and singleness as poverty). It also conflicts with your overall theme of contentment and God’s sovereign grace. But I wanted to point out how it sounded, at least to the ears of a never married 39 year old!

And if you are going to remind single women not to worry or whine about singleness, don’t forget to remind married women to stop responding to any verbalization of a desire to be married with “oh, it’s so much easier to be single”. The nice part about being 39 is that I’m not stupid enough to think that marriage solves all or even any problems. I’d even agree that in a lot of ways it is easier to be single than to be married. Although I’m still trying to figure out where I’ve misplaced all the free time singles are supposed to have due to any lack of real responsibilities – you know, that time we can use to really serve God during this time we are gifted with singleness. (Okay, sorry about the sarcasm – I guess this is why I’m still single.)