Comments on: Dealing With Sin http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/ Fri, 30 Jul 2010 17:27:05 -0700 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: SingleGirl http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-11937 SingleGirl Mon, 08 Oct 2007 04:07:44 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-11937 This topic has really hit home with me as one who ignorantly rested on the Amercian cultural crutch of having “issues”. 1) I love and receive what Nancy said as her comments helped me define what I was actually doing--resting and finding identity (even a sense of community) in having issues. 2) It took several years of God unraveling me and with each exposure, I struggled with the comments posted by Dr. Liz, " dag, I'll never be chosen with these glaring issues. Or I must be single because I’m displaying these “issues.” Of course satan played accomplice to my flesh in these accusations or should I say, I stood with satan joining in with his mostly true accusations about me before God. I participated in such self-treason for years. Entrapping me in a pit of miry clay made up of guilt, regret, and reoccuring feelings rejection. 3) Miraculously, I am now able to take the whole counsel of this post without any static in my spirit. Static as in regret, hurt or resentment over my failures. For I think all three posts (nancy and the two comments) are different paragraphs on the same Holy page. I said all the above to say that I agree with all three posts here. As through the Grace of Jesus appearing to me, over several years of struggle and repeat offenses, I am able to now conclude that YES indeed, sin (my issues) has, on a significant level, hindered me from marriage. BUT the Provident paradox is I thank Jesus for His wisdom in allowing such emotional tragedies to break my will and the idolatrous high places in my heart so that I could truly see the affront my resting on my emotional crutches (“issues”) was to Him. So I could repent and renounce such behavior. At the same time, I see clearly many sisters who did enter into marriage carrying their “issues” front and center. And as a consequence are learning lessons on the back end I and others have been fortuante to learn on the front end. I’ve had the luxury of learning with relatively no major consequence to anyone but myself. Actually, I weep for sisters in marriages who are dealing with significant “issues” in the middle of their marriage. It seems to be an unnecessary evil that hitched a ride in. But nothing too hard for God. It makes the success story sweeter. He specializes in cleaning up messes we make. Which supports sister Nancy’s intent and insights in starting this blog! “The point I am making here is that unmarried women have the opportunity to get a lot of things straightened out before they are married. ” And this repenting single girl said “AAAAAAMEN” This topic has really hit home with me as one who ignorantly rested on the Amercian cultural crutch of having “issues”.

1) I love and receive what Nancy said as her comments helped me define what I was actually doing–resting and finding identity (even a sense of community) in having issues.

2) It took several years of God unraveling me and with each exposure, I struggled with the comments posted by Dr. Liz, ” dag, I’ll never be chosen with these glaring issues. Or I must be single because I’m displaying these “issues.” Of course satan played accomplice to my flesh in these accusations or should I say, I stood with satan joining in with his mostly true accusations about me before God. I participated in such self-treason for years. Entrapping me in a pit of miry clay made up of guilt, regret, and reoccuring feelings rejection.

3) Miraculously, I am now able to take the whole counsel of this post without any static in my spirit. Static as in regret, hurt or resentment over my failures.

For I think all three posts (nancy and the two comments) are different paragraphs on the same Holy page. I said all the above to say that I agree with all three posts here.

As through the Grace of Jesus appearing to me, over several years of struggle and repeat offenses, I am able to now conclude that YES indeed, sin (my issues) has, on a significant level, hindered me from marriage. BUT the Provident paradox is I thank Jesus for His wisdom in allowing such emotional tragedies to break my will and the idolatrous high places in my heart so that I could truly see the affront my resting on my emotional crutches (“issues”) was to Him. So I could repent and renounce such behavior.

At the same time, I see clearly many sisters who did enter into marriage carrying their “issues” front and center. And as a consequence are learning lessons on the back end I and others have been fortuante to learn on the front end. I’ve had the luxury of learning with relatively no major consequence to anyone but myself.

Actually, I weep for sisters in marriages who are dealing with significant “issues” in the middle of their marriage. It seems to be an unnecessary evil that hitched a ride in. But nothing too hard for God. It makes the success story sweeter. He specializes in cleaning up messes we make. Which supports sister Nancy’s intent and insights in starting this blog!

“The point I am making here is that unmarried women have the opportunity to get a lot of things straightened out before they are married. ”

And this repenting single girl said “AAAAAAMEN”

]]> By: Valerie (Kyriosity) http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-188 Valerie (Kyriosity) Sun, 13 May 2007 12:04:33 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-188 On the other hand, although we can't always assume some direct correlation between sin and singleness (like the disciples asking, "Why was this man born blind? Was it his sin or his parents'?"), we should be open to recognizing that sin sometimes does hinder some of us from getting married. And when we do recognize that, we should be grateful that God has protected us from making an even bigger mess of things. On the other hand, although we can’t always assume some direct correlation between sin and singleness (like the disciples asking, “Why was this man born blind? Was it his sin or his parents’?”), we should be open to recognizing that sin sometimes does hinder some of us from getting married. And when we do recognize that, we should be grateful that God has protected us from making an even bigger mess of things.

]]> By: nancyann http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-175 nancyann Sat, 12 May 2007 15:51:11 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-175 Thanks, DrLiz, I've added a comment at the top that should help clarify. Thanks, DrLiz, I’ve added a comment at the top that should help clarify.

]]> By: DrLiz http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-172 DrLiz Sat, 12 May 2007 10:19:49 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/05/11/dealing-with-sin/#comment-172 I agree with everything you say in terms of the importance of getting help with problems and confessing sins, but I'm not sure why you've labeled this or targeted this to the "unmarried sisters." Shouldn't both the unmarried woman and the married woman get help for their troubles?! You seem to imply that the reason women may be unmarried is that they have all these troubles and sins they haven't dealt with, as though the married women have gotten over these things and thus been blessed with a husband. (I think both groups have their share of troubles and sins, even though the nature of these MAY tend to differ somewhat!) I agree with everything you say in terms of the importance of getting help with problems and confessing sins, but I’m not sure why you’ve labeled this or targeted this to the “unmarried sisters.” Shouldn’t both the unmarried woman and the married woman get help for their troubles?! You seem to imply that the reason women may be unmarried is that they have all these troubles and sins they haven’t dealt with, as though the married women have gotten over these things and thus been blessed with a husband. (I think both groups have their share of troubles and sins, even though the nature of these MAY tend to differ somewhat!)

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