Comments on: The Mother-in-Law http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/ Thu, 11 Mar 2010 18:10:24 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Nancy Ann http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-70952 Nancy Ann Sun, 01 Jun 2008 14:00:07 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-70952 Sue, I suggest two things. One is to guard yourself from bitterness. No matter how wronged you may be, bitterness ends up swallowing your joy. Second, ask your husband to step in, surrounding you, so he can be the buffer between you and your mother-in-law. The answer is ultimately with him, but you can make sure in the meantime that you are sweetness and light. Sue,
I suggest two things. One is to guard yourself from bitterness. No matter how wronged you may be, bitterness ends up swallowing your joy. Second, ask your husband to step in, surrounding you, so he can be the buffer between you and your mother-in-law. The answer is ultimately with him, but you can make sure in the meantime that you are sweetness and light.

]]> By: sue Clauss http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-70743 sue Clauss Sun, 01 Jun 2008 07:48:25 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-70743 My mother inlaw lives with us. She gets mad and says, He is my son. She does not realize that she has no rights as a mom to him anymore. I mean that she thinks she has control over him like she use to. He is my husband now and she needs to get use to it. When we are not there, she bosses my daughter around and is very rude about it. She thinks it is a buddy buddy for her and I. Mike and I have our own lives and ideas. She trys to always get into the middle of everything. She has a major anger issue. ?she goes to church every chance she gets this includes bible sutdy, cloths closet, senior lunchons, visiting hospitals. When Mike and I applied Gods word to our lives, such as putting up scriptures on the fridge door, she gets mad and goes to Mike and asks him if he knows about it or she asks, is this aimed at me in an angery way. Unreal. Any help please write me. Sue. My mother inlaw lives with us. She gets mad and says, He is my son. She does not realize that she has no rights as a mom to him anymore. I mean that she thinks she has control over him like she use to. He is my husband now and she needs to get use to it. When we are not there, she bosses my daughter around and is very rude about it. She thinks it is a buddy buddy for her and I. Mike and I have our own lives and ideas. She trys to always get into the middle of everything. She has a major anger issue. ?she goes to church every chance she gets this includes bible sutdy, cloths closet, senior lunchons, visiting hospitals. When Mike and I applied Gods word to our lives, such as putting up scriptures on the fridge door, she gets mad and goes to Mike and asks him if he knows about it or she asks, is this aimed at me in an angery way. Unreal. Any help please write me.

Sue.

]]> By: Nancy Ann http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-41663 Nancy Ann Tue, 18 Mar 2008 15:45:48 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-41663 Alf, I hate to say it, but there are times when a godly son will have to stand up to an ungodly mother, even if the consequences are dire. Your loyalty has to be to your wife first. May the Lord give you the strength to do what is right. Alf,
I hate to say it, but there are times when a godly son will have to stand up to an ungodly mother, even if the consequences are dire. Your loyalty has to be to your wife first. May the Lord give you the strength to do what is right.

]]> By: Alf http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-41649 Alf Tue, 18 Mar 2008 14:17:15 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-41649 Your thoughts are noble and holy, but how I wish they are true in my life. My mother is a manipulative, bordering to mental person. She just have visited us for 2 days (more to go unfortunately) and my wife is already demanding a divorce. I caught my mother more than once manipulatively lying to me and making venomous remarks about my wife. Moreover, her favorite is to lay on the guilt trip on oh how hard she raised me and I am the ungrateful son. How I wish your fine thoughts from the Bible are true in real life. Your thoughts are noble and holy, but how I wish they are true in my life. My mother is a manipulative, bordering to mental person. She just have visited us for 2 days (more to go unfortunately) and my wife is already demanding a divorce. I caught my mother more than once manipulatively lying to me and making venomous remarks about my wife. Moreover, her favorite is to lay on the guilt trip on oh how hard she raised me and I am the ungrateful son.

How I wish your fine thoughts from the Bible are true in real life.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-37776 Michelle Fri, 29 Feb 2008 00:58:02 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-37776 My son just married this past weekend. I see this so clearly and I so appreciate the guidelines. I am the pastor's wife so everyone is watching how I will handle this situation. I desire to do so with grace and scripture. I am waiting for the cd teaching on Mother's in law and Grandparents. Thank you again for this insightful information. My son just married this past weekend. I see this so clearly and I so appreciate the guidelines. I am the pastor’s wife so everyone is watching how I will handle this situation. I desire to do so with grace and scripture. I am waiting for the cd teaching on Mother’s in law and Grandparents. Thank you again for this insightful information.

]]> By: Nancy Ann http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-37708 Nancy Ann Thu, 28 Feb 2008 04:03:34 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-37708 I wish I could help, but it is difficult from this vantage point, not knowing you or the situation. So I suggest you go to your pastor for help. One thing I do notice from your comment, though, is that you say your DIL won't allow your son to speak to you. So if that is true, it seems the problem lies with your son more than with your DIL. He is the head of his home, and it sounds like he is not taking responsibility for this. You are not in a position to tell him to act like a man. But I would certainly pray that he would see his duties in this and put things right. I wish I could help, but it is difficult from this vantage point, not knowing you or the situation. So I suggest you go to your pastor for help. One thing I do notice from your comment, though, is that you say your DIL won’t allow your son to speak to you. So if that is true, it seems the problem lies with your son more than with your DIL. He is the head of his home, and it sounds like he is not taking responsibility for this. You are not in a position to tell him to act like a man. But I would certainly pray that he would see his duties in this and put things right.

]]> By: mummyshome http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-37698 mummyshome Thu, 28 Feb 2008 01:18:26 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-37698 I am a new MIL. My DIL has no respect for me. She does not allow my son to talk to me when she is home. I feel as though my son has died. I tried to be good to my DIL. I sent gifts to them both at Christmas, their birthdays and not even so much as "I received it" from her. My son did thank me for his. My son and I were always very close. I miss him so much. I have 5 more children and cannot bare the thought of this happening 5 more times. HELP. I am a new MIL. My DIL has no respect for me. She does not allow my son to talk to me when she is home. I feel as though my son has died. I tried to be good to my DIL. I sent gifts to them both at Christmas, their birthdays and not even so much as “I received it” from her. My son did thank me for his. My son and I were always very close. I miss him so much. I have 5 more children and cannot bare the thought of this happening 5 more times. HELP.

]]> By: Michelle http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-32677 Michelle Mon, 07 Jan 2008 02:41:01 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-32677 I am reading this and am excited to see this. Our oldest son is getting married in a month and a half. I know it is hard for moms to release their boys but I will since I have four. Thank you for sharing. I would like to treat my new daughter in law with kindness, love and support in her new marriage to my son. I am reading this and am excited to see this. Our oldest son is getting married in a month and a half. I know it is hard for moms to release their boys but I will since I have four. Thank you for sharing. I would like to treat my new daughter in law with kindness, love and support in her new marriage to my son.

]]> By: Its a secret http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-32611 Its a secret Sat, 05 Jan 2008 06:29:52 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-32611 As a new daughter in law, please, be kind to your daughter-in-laws. It's hard on your sons to see thier mom be mean and hateful to their wives. And it's difficult to care for a husband that struggles to take your side over a woman who has cared for him all of his life. No one wins. And although I chose not to leave a name, please keep my family in your prayers. As a new daughter in law, please, be kind to your daughter-in-laws. It’s hard on your sons to see thier mom be mean and hateful to their wives. And it’s difficult to care for a husband that struggles to take your side over a woman who has cared for him all of his life. No one wins. And although I chose not to leave a name, please keep my family in your prayers.

]]> By: sm http://www.feminagirls.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-25758 sm Tue, 20 Nov 2007 15:10:16 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2007/10/03/the-mother-in-law/#comment-25758 I was a daughter in law long before I was a mother in law and I refuse to have my new daughter in law under the same bondage I have been under for the past 25 years - she's free.... I was a daughter in law long before I was a mother in law and I refuse to have my new daughter in law under the same bondage I have been under for the past 25 years – she’s free….

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