Comments on: Screamers

By: Carroll B. Merriman

Carroll B. Merriman — Wed, 22 Sep 2010 23:50:15 +0000

Thank you for this particular encouraging posting. Now i’m thinking about picking up wrestling.

By: Julia

Julia — Tue, 14 Apr 2009 23:38:36 +0000

I feel like deep in my head somewhere was this message, but I never really understood why. Your post pulled things together for me! I always wondered why people’s tantrums over the littelest things bothered me so much, but now I see that I recognized that you don’t have to freak out to make your self feel better, and I hoped that they could somehow understand that too. If you remain cool and collected, (as much as you physically can), you will probably feel better much sooner. Not to mention the people around you won’t have to endure your complaints.

I have a friend who comes to me all the time with complaints about what is going on in her life. I care a lot for her, so I listen and try to give useful advice. But soon after I do, she is on the phone with other friends complaining all over again. As if, even with my wise advice putting things into perspective, the situation is STILL as terrible as it was. I don’t want to feel like that! Like, no matter how many people I talk to, the issue will never get better. I prefer to lift these problems to God even before I talk to a friend. That way, I am not burdening them and making them feel useless when I don’t feel better right after talking to them. God has blessed me in this way,because I don’t have many people to complain to, but I never seem to need them anymore.

Thank your for your post!

By: Laura in Louisiana

Laura in Louisiana — Fri, 10 Oct 2008 02:16:11 +0000

Thanks! We have a screamer too, I especially like the comment above about, “what if you came across someone hurt, and they were saying bad words…” Great comments too! Best!

By: Kristen@TheFrugalGirl

Kristen@TheFrugalGirl — Sun, 28 Sep 2008 23:32:07 +0000

I have a bigger problem with fussing at my house, although screaming certainly happens too(I have three girls! lol). It seems like the screaming(and the fussing!) we deal with is not so much brought on by physical pain as it is by emotional upset(the girls didn’t get their way, or someone took something from them, etc).

By: Billie

Billie — Wed, 24 Sep 2008 08:46:59 +0000

As a Yankee (MI) born gal turned Southerner (been a TN resident for a little over 14 happy years now) I can say that that might be the stereotype (and at times a well-deserved one) but I’ve certainly met my share of ladies who defy it. Seems to be a quietness of spirit issue.

I really appreciate this post. It’s good to know that we should have a quiet spirit and what that looks like. It’s also really helpful to know what it *doesn’t* look like in various situations.

By: amylake

amylake — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 20:37:26 +0000

It seems like the Southern women I know tend to be more empathetic and dramatic and the Northern women more matter-of-fact about everything (sometimes to the point of showing no sympathy, as Sarah mentioned above). It’s difficult to find the right balance. Thank you for posting this, Mrs. Wilson.

By: Peggy Sue

Peggy Sue — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 03:42:14 +0000

After five sons we have gotten used to “boy” noises. Not that my boys don’t whine mind you, we frequently have to tell them to act like men, they just never scream. Now God has finally blessed us with a girl. We have dolled her up with pink and bows ( can’t wait till she’s big enough for a skirty) and enjoed every cute second of her girliness. But now that she’s 19 months old and full of opinions, BOY, CAN SHE SCREAM! Sometimes in delight, sometimes in disgust, always very loudly. My husband and sons look at her like an alien life form. This is a new and interesting battle in our home!

Thanks for the encouragement.

By: Tracey Davis

Tracey Davis — Tue, 23 Sep 2008 00:56:17 +0000

Brittany Martin,

Thanks for sharing your story. Very charming tale! I love the 30 seconds vs. 3 weeks conclusion! Blessings, Tracey

By: Lauren

Lauren — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 21:54:32 +0000

This reminds me of certain childhood lesson. After an exciting day at school–a fellow first grader had gotten paddled for a using bad words–I asked Mom when it was okay to use “bad words”.

Mom asked what I thought. I considered the scenarios, and came up with what I thought to be the end all of childhood traumas, “When you fall down and break your arm.”

Mom thought not, “If you came upon a girl who’d fallen and broken her arm, and she was yelling bad words–would you want to help her? Would you even want to go near her? What if instead she had tears in her eyes and asked for help nicely?”

“Then I would take her to the hospital and sign her cast.”

I won’t even mention the “Why do we have to wash hands” conversation, although not doing so after ( burying a cat my parents had no idea) and slamming my hand in the sliding glass door did lead to a fabulous “how I lost my fingernail to c-infection” story . . .

By: Sarah

Sarah — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 20:42:32 +0000

Britanny: that’s a really interesting perspective! And I’m sorry about your toe!