Comments on: Unmarried and Fruitful http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 22:48:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Shannon M. http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-342206 Shannon M. Tue, 27 Jul 2010 22:43:55 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-342206 I just discovered your blog and although this was written over a year ago, it was a delight and a challenge to read. This was such a blessing, thank you! I just discovered your blog and although this was written over a year ago, it was a delight and a challenge to read. This was such a blessing, thank you!

]]> By: Annie http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-296265 Annie Tue, 04 Aug 2009 15:51:51 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-296265 Spoke directly to my greatest weakness, and repeated the same thins God has been convicting me of lately. Thank you! I will read and re-read this article. Spoke directly to my greatest weakness, and repeated the same thins God has been convicting me of lately. Thank you! I will read and re-read this article.

]]> By: Nae http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-242847 Nae Mon, 27 Apr 2009 00:23:38 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-242847 Thanyou very much Nancy for reminding us of some very wise points to consider. I particularly appreciated what you wrote about "What kind of woman would that kind of man want to marry?", particularly as sometimes we can want to marry an amazing guy who has it all together, while we sit around in our laziness. Thankyou also for reminding us that God is good. It is such a comfort and blessing to know that. Thanyou very much Nancy for reminding us of some very wise points to consider. I particularly appreciated what you wrote about “What kind of woman would that kind of man want to marry?”, particularly as sometimes we can want to marry an amazing guy who has it all together, while we sit around in our laziness. Thankyou also for reminding us that God is good. It is such a comfort and blessing to know that.

]]> By: SJR http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-241097 SJR Fri, 24 Apr 2009 02:04:49 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-241097 Erin, I used to have exactly the same worries! I live in a fairly isolated area and don't have a wide social circle, and I couldn't for the life of me see how I was going to "find" anyone. And yet before I knew what was happening, someone was asking me out. It didn't go anywhere, but I was reminded all over again how easily God can fulfil His plans in His own good time. Erin, I used to have exactly the same worries! I live in a fairly isolated area and don’t have a wide social circle, and I couldn’t for the life of me see how I was going to “find” anyone. And yet before I knew what was happening, someone was asking me out. It didn’t go anywhere, but I was reminded all over again how easily God can fulfil His plans in His own good time.

]]> By: Kate http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240918 Kate Thu, 23 Apr 2009 21:25:43 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240918 What an excellent post! And I agree with some other commenters, any real longing for God's gift(s) can be used here. Really, you've encouraged me and helped set me straight with this post. Especially your admonishment to be productive with whatever it is that God has called you to do <i>right now</i>. Also, I really appreciate that little description of contentment being more about subtracting than adding. I think the temptation is great sometimes to feel like you don't "fit in" the Christian community when you're unmarried.. or married, but only have one child (like me). I can sometimes feel less-than or like I don't have anything to contribute ever because so many Christian women in the community are married and have like, eight kids aged seven and under. (I know, I know.. it's virtually impossible but yet somehow, women manage to do this!) In fact, it can get darn-right depressing. But I like the perspective there: bringing our desires down to our circumstances. Thank you! What an excellent post! And I agree with some other commenters, any real longing for God’s gift(s) can be used here. Really, you’ve encouraged me and helped set me straight with this post. Especially your admonishment to be productive with whatever it is that God has called you to do right now.

Also, I really appreciate that little description of contentment being more about subtracting than adding. I think the temptation is great sometimes to feel like you don’t “fit in” the Christian community when you’re unmarried.. or married, but only have one child (like me). I can sometimes feel less-than or like I don’t have anything to contribute ever because so many Christian women in the community are married and have like, eight kids aged seven and under. (I know, I know.. it’s virtually impossible but yet somehow, women manage to do this!) In fact, it can get darn-right depressing. But I like the perspective there: bringing our desires down to our circumstances. Thank you!

]]> By: suzanne http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240908 suzanne Thu, 23 Apr 2009 20:42:50 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240908 I know of a beautiful Christian woman who wanted to be married all of her adult life but it didn't happen until she was 50. Her dream came true. I didn't realize what an adjustment it had been for her until a couple of years after her wedding my friend Jane asked her how was it going? My 52 year old friend replied -- I just realized I spent the first 50 years of my life on vacation! She loves her husband dearly but there are challenges in all states of our lives. I know of a beautiful Christian woman who wanted to be married all of her adult life but it didn’t happen until she was 50. Her dream came true. I didn’t realize what an adjustment it had been for her until a couple of years after her wedding my friend Jane asked her how was it going? My 52 year old friend replied — I just realized I spent the first 50 years of my life on vacation! She loves her husband dearly but there are challenges in all states of our lives.

]]> By: Rebecca http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240785 Rebecca Thu, 23 Apr 2009 12:48:19 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240785 I appreciated this article because I have many young ladies in my acquaintance who are in the deep throws of longing. It occurred to me though, this article can be read with the glasses of married, no kids and fruitful. Several ladies I know are struggling with not being able to get pregnant and have children~and why a good, God-ordained thing as motherhood isn't happening for them. There is wisdom here for THEM too. Thank you. I appreciated this article because I have many young ladies in my acquaintance who are in the deep throws of longing.

It occurred to me though, this article can be read with the glasses of married, no kids and fruitful. Several ladies I know are struggling with not being able to get pregnant and have children~and why a good, God-ordained thing as motherhood isn’t happening for them. There is wisdom here for THEM too.

Thank you.

]]> By: Jassy http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240586 Jassy Thu, 23 Apr 2009 05:52:23 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240586 It is so true, what you say about learning contentment now, it is so easy to be discontent even as I'm surrounded by good blessings. I think I've been learning what you're advocating (after much trouble!) and my heart is far more at peace than ever it's been. I imagine it's makes one easier to live with as well. Thank you again for these sorts of articles. I so appreciate when married women think of us who are trying to understand all of this stuff! It's such a blessing! It is so true, what you say about learning contentment now, it is so easy to be discontent even as I’m surrounded by good blessings. I think I’ve been learning what you’re advocating (after much trouble!) and my heart is far more at peace than ever it’s been. I imagine it’s makes one easier to live with as well. Thank you again for these sorts of articles. I so appreciate when married women think of us who are trying to understand all of this stuff! It’s such a blessing!

]]> By: Laura http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240379 Laura Thu, 23 Apr 2009 02:48:43 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240379 Hope this might be encouraging for some. I was raised in a Christian home and as the oldest of 6 alwlays wanted to be a wife and mother. Everyone who knew me thought I would be married just like most are. However, I was not married until I was 38. Singleness was the crucible the Lord used to teach me lots and lots and to show me more of Himself and His unfailing, allsufficient love. By His grace I was fruitfull as a teacher, an aunt, a daughter, a friend. My husband was 46 when we married. He had been praying for a wife since he was 18. We got pregnant on our honeymoon and now have a son. While it was always fun to hear stories like that as a single it didn't help a whole lot because you never know what God's plan for you will be. But what Nancy said is helpful and most important. God calls us to be fruitful and we find peace and contentment as we lay down our lives for him by laying down our lives for others. Peace is not the absence of occasional gut renching cries of lonliness, or dissapointment, or confussion. But well...its peace and since this is not my blog I think I've said enough. It's always good stopping by and reading the posts here. Thanks for your love for the Lord, his people, and life. Hope this might be encouraging for some. I was raised in a Christian home and as the oldest of 6 alwlays wanted to be a wife and mother. Everyone who knew me thought I would be married just like most are. However, I was not married until I was 38. Singleness was the crucible the Lord used to teach me lots and lots and to show me more of Himself and His unfailing, allsufficient love. By His grace I was fruitfull as a teacher, an aunt, a daughter, a friend. My husband was 46 when we married. He had been praying for a wife since he was 18. We got pregnant on our honeymoon and now have a son. While it was always fun to hear stories like that as a single it didn’t help a whole lot because you never know what God’s plan for you will be. But what Nancy said is helpful and most important. God calls us to be fruitful and we find peace and contentment as we lay down our lives for him by laying down our lives for others. Peace is not the absence of occasional gut renching cries of lonliness, or dissapointment, or confussion. But well…its peace and since this is not my blog I think I’ve said enough. It’s always good stopping by and reading the posts here. Thanks for your love for the Lord, his people, and life.

]]> By: Amelia http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240356 Amelia Thu, 23 Apr 2009 02:16:40 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/04/22/unmarried-and-fruitful/#comment-240356 Hello - thanks so much for your encouraging words! I needed to read that today! Such great reminders! I have just recently started reading your blog and I love it! Thanks so much for sharing bits of wisdom. Hello – thanks so much for your encouraging words! I needed to read that today! Such great reminders! I have just recently started reading your blog and I love it! Thanks so much for sharing bits of wisdom.

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