Here is a little wedding etiquette blurb I wrote a while back for our church email list. And since it’s almost June and all, I thought I may as well post it up here.
With quite a few weddings filling up the calendar over the next several months, it’s time for a few more etiquette reminders. Courtesy is simply love expressed in tangible ways. A lack of courtesy is a lack of love, whether intentional or not. So think of wedding courtesies as incarnational living. And these courtesies work both ways: guests to the bride and groom, and bride and groom to the guests.
The bride and groom’s families are spending a good amount of time on the guest list. Due to facilities with limited seating, as well as limited budgets, it’s simply impossible for the parents to invite everyone in our Christian community, even if they feel that everyone is near and dear. So don’t take it personally if you are not invited. Don’t ask the bride or groom if you can come……and don’t just assume you can go if you didn’t get an invitation. Students, you are particularly to pay attention to this! You may not invite your friends and roommates to go with you to a wedding unless they were specifically invited. A wedding just Continue reading ‘A Wedding Invitation is a Beautiful Thing’
This is not marriage advice, but a little piece of wedding advice that I sometimes tell the bride when I get the chance. As you walk down the aisle, fasten your eyes on that groom of yours. He’s waiting for you. Don’t be distracted by all the guests and think you need to make eye contact with all of them as you walk down the aisle on your dad’s arm. One exception is your mom who will be watching as well. Give her a loving smile. There’s an old hymn (I’ve forgotten the name) that has this line: “The bride eyes not her garment, but her dear bridegroom’s face.” That’s the idea.
“The Lord’s Supper works for good. It is an emblem of the marriage-supper of the Lamb (Rev. 19:9), and an earnest of that communion we shall have with Christ in glory. It is a feast of fat things; it gives us bread from heaven, such as preserves life, and prevents death. It has glorious effects in the hearts of the godly. It quickens their affections, strengthens their graces, mortifies their corruptions, revives their hopes, and increases their joy. Luther says, ‘It is as great a work to comfort a dejected soul, as to raise the dead to life’; yet this may and sometimes is done to the souls of the godly in the blessed Supper.”
Thomas Watson, All Things for Good
“The angel fetched Peter out of prison, but it was prayer fetched the angel.”
Thomas Watson, All Things for Good
Today was Grandparents’ Day at Logos School, and Doug and I (being grandparents and all) watched our first-grader grandson perform in “Three Little Piggies Opera,” our granddaughter recite poems and Scripture with her kindergarten class, and then we had a hands-on, potato-head making activity with our two preschool granddaughters. And here they are with their potato heads to prove it. You should know that we sliced out the top of the potato, inserted cotton balls, sprinkled them with grass seed and watered them. Now these potato heads will grow a head of green hair as they sit in their respective kitchen windows.
Here’s a nice motherly dilemma: your daughter is friends with some nice Christian girls who are starting to make poor choices. In other words, when your daughter spends time with them, she ends up being influenced negatively more than she is influencing them positively. And then say that their mothers are your good friends. I don’t know how many times moms have asked me what to do in a situation like this. So here are a few thoughts.
One important thing to note is that the older your children grow, the more this matters. Someone who was a nice little friend in third grade may be an entirely different kind of friend by eighth grade. Why? Because lifestyle choices will become more important as each year goes by. In third grade the girls still want to ride bikes and climb trees and play house. But by junior-high they may be listening to the kind of music or watching the kind of movies that your family wants to avoid. And by early high-school it will most likely also include choices involving language, facebook, boys, and modesty issues. Continue reading ‘A Motherly Dilemma’
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