http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/ Fri, 10 Feb 2012 15:56:22 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/#comment-308360 Naomi A. Tue, 25 Aug 2009 01:14:08 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/#comment-308360 Kudos. Kudos.

]]> http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/#comment-307159 RLS Sat, 22 Aug 2009 21:15:02 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/#comment-307159 I've been thinking about this post all morning. There is another form of coming clean that needs to be mentioned. We raise our sons to learn to tough out problems. That's important and right and I am certainly not speaking against it. One consequence, though is that they won't speak up when they need help, especially with bullying. Some bullies have no fear of being hit back. Cowardice and meanness are mutually exclusive, ladies. Your son won't say anything because he is afraid that you will think less of him.He believes it is his responsibily to deal with it. Kids don't know where that line is. I was one of those kids, as you can guess. You have to pull it out of them, because they are too ashamed to speak up. Male POV I’ve been thinking about this post all morning. There is another form of coming clean that needs to be mentioned. We raise our sons to learn to tough out problems. That’s important and right and I am certainly not speaking against it. One consequence, though is that they won’t speak up when they need help, especially with bullying. Some bullies have no fear of being hit back. Cowardice and meanness are mutually exclusive, ladies. Your son won’t say anything because he is afraid that you will think less of him.He believes it is his responsibily to deal with it. Kids don’t know where that line is. I was one of those kids, as you can guess. You have to pull it out of them, because they are too ashamed to speak up. Male POV

]]> http://www.feminagirls.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/#comment-307111 RLS Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:26:50 +0000 http://femina.reformedblogs.com/2009/08/21/coming-clean/#comment-307111 It can be complicated, especially if the person you wronged is a violent person. It can be complicated, especially if the person you wronged is a violent person.

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