Comments on: Taking Offense

By: Wendy

Wendy — Wed, 09 Dec 2009 15:39:52 +0000

Now if I could just get over occasionally being a bit miffed when others are so easily offended! : )

By: missy

missy — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 12:02:44 +0000

Funny to me that I thought I understood that it’s sin when I take offense, but you have shown me where I am still failing at this.

Sometimes we all like to think that in every disagreement or offense, one party is right and one is wrong.
But oftener, both parties are in sin.

Thank you for this.

I just read your husband’s exhortation about judging others who are tempted in ways I am not. It goes hand in hand with this one.

By: Tanya

Tanya — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 21:52:37 +0000

My husband would love this one…He says that most people are always in “victim mode” and look for reasons to be offended or have something to complain about:).
My husband is right (of course) You can sit in on conversations and decide you need to be offended by something even if you weren’t at first. Just by listening we can create offenses in our minds to be victims about so we can be miserable too.

By: Sarah S. Chicken

Sarah S. Chicken — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 13:25:21 +0000

I sometimes put my feelings about myself on my husband and assume that if I feel like a failure today, then he thinks I’m a failure today. that is not fair to him and can make for a very ugly evening. I know from experience. I am trying to learn how to accept others’ grace for me and give grace to myself. It’s hard some days…

By: Valerie (Kyriosity)

Valerie (Kyriosity) — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 16:59:04 +0000

This is a point my pastor often brings up. And he practices what he preaches — I never met anyone so slow to take offense!

By: Brandy

Brandy — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 13:16:51 +0000

Good point, Pam :0)

By: Pam

Pam — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 09:31:28 +0000

I’ve always found it interesting that not being easily offended is in 1 Corinthians 13.

Pam

By: Seda

Seda — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 06:13:21 +0000

a helpful image my husband offers: a heart like the ocean. a little ripple hardly affect deep waters. if one has a heart with the width and depth of a puddle, however, it would not take much to disturb one’s peace.

thanks for the reminder, Nancy.

By: Brandy

Brandy — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 05:35:08 +0000

This is very helpful. I recently read a book called How to Get your Husband to Talk to You. I happened upon it in a resale store. Now, my husband is already sweet about talking to me :0), but this book is really about how to be a good wife. Many times the authors talk about developing thicker skin and not being offended by every little thing that your husband says or does. This is a tough lesson to learn sometimes, but a really important one. Husbands and wives are indeed different and just because we wives take offense, does not mean that our husbands were trying to offend or that they were wrong at all. What a blessing it will be to our husbands if we try to interpret everything they say in the best light possible and give them the benefit of the doubt. Afterall, they must be pretty great guys…we chose to marry them :0)

By: kim

kim — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 05:32:48 +0000

Thank you for the GREAT reminder! If only the church would practice this… we would have less issues with baby showers, weddings, small groups, etc.! Thank you for your faithfulness to share the truth! you have been SUCH an encouragement and a challenge to me! Thanks!