Sometimes, as I’m sure you know, wives can take on more than they can physically, spiritually, or emotionally handle. It’s absolutely humanly impossible, but they manage somehow anyway, and the family survives the craziness after all. Survives. That’s an interesting word. But there’s a toll. And the family or the kids or mom herself pays it.
When a wife is carrying a burden of responsibility that is simply too much for her, her husband is the one with the responsibility to notice. He is supposed to protect her from her own rash commitments. In fact, somewhere in the OT law there is a verse about how if a husband hears of his wife’s vow on the same day that she made it, he can overturn it. That’s a good one, and I fully approve. Three cheers for the husband who says, “You said you’d do what? Are you crazy? I don’t want you to do that!”
Wives tend to underestimate the impact they have on their very own families, and, at the very same time, they also overestimate their own ability to carry far more weight than they were designed by God to carry. (Did you follow that?) A wise husband will blow the whistle.
I remember when (and I know this may be a pitiful example) my husband stepped in and blew the whistle for me. When our kids were little, I had many women calling me to babysit their kids every week. I seldom said, “No,” and most of the time it was just great. But sometimes it really interfered with the how the household was running and how I was running. And I remember when Doug said that he really didn’t want me doing any babysitting for a while. It was so kind of him. Such a loving interference. I still bless him for that one. That’s what husbands are for. They are supposed to step in and call it quits on behalf of their wives.
Now I am not saying that men should boss their wives around, telling them they can’t do stuff that they really want to do. Shame on them if they do. What I am saying here is three cheers for husbands who are paying attention. Three cheers for the husband who says, “Honey, I don’t want you to take that on. I don’t want you volunteering for that job. You have enough on your plate. I don’t want a fried wife. I don’t care how much money it will bring in. It’s just not worth it. I’ll take care of it.”
Now I didn’t write this post to make women mad because they don’t have husbands who will do such things. I wrote it so women would not get mad at husbands who do. Bless God for that kind of husband. They don’t grow on trees.