We all know we are supposed to forgive one another. That is not a new, shocking idea that I cooked up this morning while having my coffee. It is fundamental to the Christian life. But that doesn’t mean that it’s easy.

Let’s say someone has wronged you, and it’s not your imagination; it’s an objective sin. It is easy to put that grievance in a compartment somewhere in your heart and keep it there. For years and years. After all, it was a real sin and it’s easy to feel totally justified in being indignant. It could be one of your family members, or someone at work or at church; it could be the neighbor who cussed you out for parking funny, or it could be one of your own children who didn’t sin at all, but just woke up too early this morning. We can gather up grudges from all kinds of places, for real or imagined sins.

But Jesus wants us to think about this a different way. Upside down in fact. Do we want God to put our wrongs in a compartment where He can review them regularly and hold a grievance against us? Aaaackk. No! We want Him to put them as far away as the East is from the West. We want Him to bleach the crimson stain out. What does He want us to do? He wants us to imitate Him so that He can imitate us.

Jesus taught His disciples (and aren’t we His disciples?) to pray very specifically. Whenever we ask God to forgive us for our sins (which we ought to do regularly), we are to ask Him to model His forgiveness after ours. And forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.

So, we could easily say in our prayers something like this: Lord, please forgive me for my sin of  (fill in the blank) the same way I have forgiven so-in-so. To tell you the truth, I don’t want God to model His forgiveness after mine. Mine is pretty weak and lame, and I am fully capable of carrying a grudge. But we say the Lord’s Prayer every week at church, and it is a potent reminder that I need to get full grace from God to forgive others so that I can ask Him to forgive me.

Here’s a suggestion. Who is it in your life who requires the most forgiveness from you? Then ask God to forgive you today the same way you have forgiven old so-in-so. And if you just can’t do it,  ask God to give you the resources to extend forgiveness. Clean out that cupboard of grievances and ask God to give it a thorough shine.

Then we can all pray the Lord’s prayer without being hypocrites. And it’s amazing what a heavy weight those old grievances are. There’s no need for us to continue to drag them around like a ball and chain. Christians, of all people, are the most free. We have the means, by God’s grace, to live like we are.

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8 thoughts on “Forgiveness

  1. Great post. That part of the Lord’s Prayer has always scared me. This reminds me that it would be a great idea to re-read your father-in-law’s book “How to Be Free from Bitterness.”

  2. How does one forgive wisely? That is, when one has been hurt several times in the same way by the same person and needs to remember the hurt in order to keep it from happening again, how does one forgive without forgetting but also without becoming bitter? Is that even possible?

  3. I loved this post. But I’m wondering about the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation? I’d love to see a post on that. I think we as Christian women can confuse the two and think they mean the same thing? Perhaps the difference between the two would help “EM” with her question of forgiving wisely? Forgiveness is always possible, I think, reconciliation is not (because that depends on another person repenting). I’d love to hear thoughts on this.

  4. Nancy- “or it could be one of your own children who didn’t sin at all, but just woke up too early this morning.” – that’s not a sin. Hmmm…I might have to adjust my attitude to that one :)

    Thanks for this post! Being human, it is hard to remember that I need to forgive as Christ forgives. If He can forgive me of being such a sinner that He needed to go to the cross to make it right before God for me, there is really nothing I *can’t* forgive others for.

  5. An excellent post. One question points to our need to understand key points like forgiveness, repentance and reconcilliation. An editorial in Christianity Today pointed out some years ago, we often let the world mold these Biblical concepts into something they are not.

  6. I second (or third) EM’s question. There is someone in my family who continually sins against me in the same way, even thought the issue has been addressed.

  7. Piggy-backing on the question above, is there room for protecting oneself? I have removed myself from the influence of some I am forgiving, and while I know the generous grace of God is keeping bitterness from my heart, I don’t see that it’s a wise thing to continue to open myself up to their actions. What say you, Nancy?

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