Given the rip-snorting responses to my Mom-zilla post, I feel I had better get back in here and get a few more things said. Thanks for all your comments, ladies. I’m sorry I didn’t get some of them cleared sooner….I’m taking care of five wonderful grandkids for a few days, and the sun has been shining, so my computer has been gathering dust.
Let me restate a couple of things. A bride should make all the necessary preparations for a beautiful wedding, and a mother should make all the necessary preparations to give birth. It would be foolish not to. I have no objection to the bride or the mother who has planned things down to the most minute details. Jesus said it was all right to tithe the mint and the dill, so long as we didn’t forget the bigger issues. We don’t want to get ourselves worked up over having everything exactly as we want it (whether to please ourselves or to gain approval from others who have strong opinions), and fail to see how obsessive or self-centered we have become in the process.
I have no squabble with women’s birth choices because they are their choices, not mine. The issue I was addressing was the need for a mama to hold these things loosely so she doesn’t become a demanding prima donna in the midst of an event that is bigger than she is.
I am not advocating one kind of childbirth over another. I am not arguing for unpreparedness. I am suggesting that we should not become overly distracted with our expectations, plans, and opinions. Everything should be in an open hand before the Lord. I am suggesting that Christian women should approach childbirth as they do everything else: in faith, with humility and grace. And besides the obvious desire to have a healthy child, every woman should pray that she will birth in a manner that pleases and glorifies God. She should want to please God by being a trooper, by being brave, by being cooperative, by being grateful, by pushing to the glory of God. She should want her husband to be proud of her, not embarrassed. This means she will exhibit the fruit of the Spirit in the midst of childbirth. She will not turn into a mom-zilla.
How does she turn into a mom-zilla? By flipping out at her caregivers, by being demanding and bossy. By being angry when things don’t go exactly as she had planned. By playing the blame game. That’s the mom-zilla I described. Someone mentioned in the comments that we tend to look for the perfect experience so we can film it and put it up on the world wide web. Exactly! In some cases, otherwise modest women become exhibitionists in sharing their (immodest) birth pictures, videos, and stories. But that’s another subject. The point is that we are to be consistent Christians in everything. So by all means women should make birth plans with care and wisdom, but always with a “Lord willing” attitude.
So, thanks again for the comments. I can see it is a hot-button, a tender subject, and one that can illustrate exactly why we need to deal with this….