Proverbs is a great book for sons to read because a whole bunch of it addresses them directly. In fact, if you give it a quick look through, you’ll see many instances of paragraphs beginning with things like “My son, listen up!” Here are just a few samples:
(1:8) “My son, hear the instruction of your father, and do not forsake the law of your mother.”
(2:1) “My son, if you receive my words, and treasure my commands within you…”
(3:1) “My son, do not forget my law, but let your heart keep my commands…”
(6:20) “My son, keep your father’s command, and do not forsake the law of your mother.”
Sons can sometimes forget that Mom is to be honored and obeyed just as much as Dad is to be honored and obeyed. And mothers can sometimes forget that fact themselves. God has given mothers authority over their sons as well as their daughters. They must learn to wield that authority in a godly way, not molly-coddling sons and not being dictatorial over their sons. Sons are to be brought up wearing Mom’s law like an ornament around their necks. A mom who honors and respects her son by teaching him wisdom will gain a son who will some day be teaching her wisdom himself. A mother who lays down the law is a huge blessing to a son, especially if the law is God’s and not something she has made up to suit herself.
Mom’s law should include some of these gems: Stay away from sinners who are trying to entice you to do stupid things (1:10). Keep your eye on wisdom (3:21). Pay attention to what I am saying (4:20; 5:1). Stay away from loose women (7:5). (And these are just a handful from the opening chapters.)
In order for mothers to instruct their sons and daughters wisely, they have to be reading Proverbs and doing Proverbs themselves. We have a treasure trove of wisdom in this book. Open it up for yourself and welcome your children into it.
The famous chapter 31 on the virtuous woman begins with “The words of King Lemuel, the utterance which his mother taught him.” King Lemuel’s mother taught him what to look for in a wife. And who better to do it?
Mothers should not abdicate when it comes to teaching their sons. Just because he is taller than you does not mean he doesn’t still need your instruction. Lay down the law like King Lemuel’s mom did. She taught him what’s what. And she must have been a Proverbs 31 woman herself because, as the saying goes, it takes one to know one.