If you have a school-age daughter, or if you are a school-age daughter, I commend this piece my husband whipped up this a.m. called “Warm, Friendly, and Distant.” And it’s for all parents or daughters, whether homeschooling or Christian day schooling.
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I promised a while back that I’d write a post for the girls headed off to college, so here it is. I hope it will apply whether you are going away or are living at home while you attend college. And even if you are attending a Christian college, heads up, because there is sin at Christian colleges too.
1. Think like a Christian in class. Don’t be afraid to be identified as a Christian. Many professors will ask leading questions to find out which ones in the class are the Christians. Don’t back down. Hold your head up. Flunk if necessary. Remember, you are trying to impress God, not your professor.
2. Live like a Christian. If you’re in a dorm or sorority situation, you are living on the front lines. I hope you have been trained well, and you know how to handle yourself. This is no place for beginners. Let everyone know right away that you are a Christian. Don’t keep your head down. Live a holy life, and if you can’t do that in your living situation, move out.
3. Act like a Christian. Don’t cut corners, don’t make allowances or excuses, don’t watch movies or attend parties that you wouldn’t want your parents or your pastor to attend with you. Have high standards and never mind who is offended by them.
4. Choose your friends carefully and don’t fall in with the first people you meet. Get to know everyone, and then make a Continue reading ‘College 101′
Howdy all! So, I’ve been moving the last week, and thus have been out of the loop on all this bikini hoopla that’s been occurring. I’ve just gotten up to speed, and I have something to say. Something that originally came from my husband.
Think of a gorgeous, sleek, expensive, sports car. As it drives past, people notice. And they know that that’s a fast car. Everyone knows it’s a fast car. You can tell a mile away that it’s a fast car. You’d have to be a complete idiot to not know what kind of car it is.
Now picture a jacked up muscle car with the hood off to expose the wildly chromed-out engine. This is the car owner who is so desperate for everyone to notice the size of the engine that he’s going to make an ostentatious show of it. There you have the woman in a bikini. The woman who’s loudly screaming at everyone in this and adjoining counties that she’d like everyone to notice the size of the engine.
Seriously ladies. Which car would you rather be? People seem to think that if they’re not the muscle car then everyone will think they’re slow. But it’s not like we are only given a choice between being a low-class muscle car or a rusted-out Volkswagen Rabbit Pickup. There are more options out there. A Lamborghini doesn’t have to take the hood off. Everyone knows it’s fast.
Be the Lamborghini. (Not the Goat.)
Upon reflection . . . that goat remark may be a little ambiguous. So for anyone who didn’t get it, I have found a helpful visual aid. Here is a goat. (As in, a GTO.)
I had a great question from a dad about what I thought when it comes to taking his sons to the public pool. So after chewing on this and talking with my husband about it (who has a related article over on his blog), I’m ready to tackle this. So here it goes.
If you take your son to the public pool, you had better be teaching him before, during, and after about what is going on with all the nearly naked people splashing about. And you had better make sure that he is getting the lesson and not just studying the subjects.
But if you are not up to it, either because it is such a workout and totally not worth it, then don’t go. Or if you don’t mind the teaching aspect, but the temptations to look and lust are too great, then stay home.
Sons need to be taught to be leaders. You don’t want sons who just take it all in, or sons who disapprove of it all but still participate in a way hard to distinguish from the ones taking it all in. But if all the girls are wearing immodest swimwear, and if he is hanging out with them as though it doesn’t matter, then he isn’t growing up to be a leader. If he is rebuking them all for their attire, then he is possibly just being a jerk.
The thing you want your son to do is to ignore the girls who are immodestly dressed, especially the Christian girls. And then when they come ask him why he isn’t hanging out with them, he is in a great position to tell them the truth: “Because I don’t want people to think that I am the kind of guy who hangs out with girls dressed like that.”
Hope that helps.
Since we’re having such a good time discussing the merits of bikini-wear, I thought I would just stay on topic for the moment. When someone (like me) suggests that something (like a bikini) is immodest, our first instinct is to say, “Show me a verse where bikinis are not allowed.” We tend to want lines drawn and lists made up which are easy to enforce. We want a wooden rule which is easy to read. Show me why I can’t rather than show me why I should.
Our other tendency is to limit the rightness or wrongness of bikini-wearing to a matter of heart motive. Then it becomes off limits to discuss, because we all know that it is a big no-no to judge heart motives. So where do we go and how do we decide?
Let’s come at it another way. Rather than looking for the absence of evil motives, let’s look for the presence of good ones. The Bible says women should be (to list a few things) sober, discreet, chaste (Titus 2:4-5), meek and quiet (1 Peter 3:4) holy (vs. 5-6), modest, dressing with propriety and moderation (1 Timothy 2:8), characterized by faith, charity, and holiness with self-control (vs. 15). So let’s say a Christian woman is wearing a thong to Continue reading ‘More on Beach Wear’
Since it’s still officially beach weather and pool weather, it seems not too late to plunge into the topic of bikini wear. Why shouldn’t all the sweet little Christian high-school and college girls don the skimpy suits and hang out with their friends poolside or on the boat or, even better, in the hot tub with the boys? And since my last post was about daughters, I thought I’d stay on topic for the moment and mention another dumb thing women (of all ages) can do. And though I don’t want to sound preachy, someone has to address this.
If you are the girl wanting to wear the bikini, or if you are the parent wondering if your daughter should wear it, or if you are an innocent bystander wondering why the sweet Christian girls are wearing them, here are a few things to consider. What does wearing a bikini do to the one wearing it? What does wearing a bikini do to your daughter? What impact is it having on her? I’m not even talking about what impact it has on the guys. That’s their problem. But what does it do to the woman herself? Continue reading ‘Beach Treats’
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