In the big world of marriage troubles, God’s Word provides the only real solution. Divorce is always an easy answer, but God hates divorce, and it ought to be a last resort reserved for cases of infidelity or other sins of similar magnitude.
But living in a state of long-term misery is no solution either. So let’s just consider a few principles that might produce some measure of improvement. At least it will be moving you in the right direction. It’s always easy to make things worse, so let’s think about how we can make things better. Even if you can’t change your husband, you can change your own heart and attitude. So let’s start there.
1. Think about what you could improve rather than only focusing on what your husband could do better. Confess your own sins rather than his.
2. Consider his perspective. What is it like for him to be married to you?
3. Do not harbor resentments. Love covers a multitude of sins. Ask God for that kind of love.
4. Once you’ve forgiven something, don’t bring it up again. God doesn’t do that to you. Continue reading ‘Marriage Troubles’
We all are taken up with our own work, as we should be. But think about what makes our work meaningful: God Himself has prepared our own specific work just for us. It has His autograph on it. Work is good. God invented it. In fact, He works harder than all of us.
Consider these few verses in Psalm 111 that refer to God’s works. But before we look at them, look at the opening to this psalm: “Praise the Lord! I will praise the Lord with my whole heart, in the assembly of the upright and in the congregation.” And the psalm ends with more praise: “His praise endures forever.” So what is sandwiched in between that praise? In this particular psalm, it’s a whole lot about God’s work.
Verse 2: The works of the Lord are great, studied by all who have pleasure in them.
Verse 3: His work is honorable and glorious, and his righteousness endures forever. Continue reading ‘All His Works’
I’d like to look at the content of the familiar text of Romans 12:1. “I beseech you therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.”
First we must see that Paul is pleading with us, begging us to do something. He is very earnest about this, and he bases his appeal on the mercies of God.
What are these mercies of God? They are His tender mercies. He loves us in Christ, He has adopted us as His own children, He has extended forgiveness to us in Christ, and He has transferred us into the Kingdom of His Son. Not only that, but He has plans for us, plans that are good and acceptable and perfect.
Based on these mercies, what is it Paul is urging us to do? He wants us to give our bodies to God as a sacrifice. Not as a sacrifice to be slaughtered, but as a living sacrifice. He wants us to live on the altar of God. And when we give Him our body, our mind and spirit come along with it. Continue reading ‘Life on the Altar’
Once upon a time when we were living in England, I kept hearing this one particular song everywhere I went. I think it was around Christmas, so I was out shopping a lot – and the song was everywhere. It had a great vibe and I liked it, so I downloaded it and added it to the mix. My dad had taught me early on that you should always read the lyrics so that you know what you’re singing along to . . . and that’s a habit that has stuck with me to this day. As an aside, that habit is especially important as a parent – who wants to find out later that your kids have all memorized something filthy that you’ve been playing around the house every day? Anyway, I remember that I had looked up the lyrics to this song and they were completely nonsensical and poetically unimpressive, but there wasn’t anything problematic about it in that way. And it was a great song to cook to. I always love it when the music is turned up and everyone is in the kitchen helping, and like I said, this song had a great vibe. So it was definitely having a presence around the homefront as well as in the Christmas sales around Oxford.
After a week or so, apropos of nothing, I looked up the band. It wasn’t a group that I was familiar with, and so in a moment of curiosity I googled them. Continue reading ‘Here Comes Halloween’
We have our four winners! Congrats on your new magazine Rachel, Kate, Katie, and Kelley! Thanks everyone for joining in on the fun, and don’t forget to go get yourselves a subscription!
The fun news today is that I have 4 subscriptions to Nature Friend Magazine give away! They are one-year subscriptions, 12 issues each. To enter the drawing, you only need to leave a comment here. You have the option of entering twice if you share it on Facebook, and come back to say so here. Otherwise, please only comment once!
I love this magazine! The subtitle is “Helping Families Explore the Wonders of God’s Creation” – and that right there is what I love. You can see how much use these see in our home by all the wrinkly covers – and apparently even our dog is attracted to them. Well, she is a bird dog after all, so maybe that makes sense.
This is the only magazine that we get for our kids, and they enjoy it so much. My mom subscribed me when I was little, and I went so far as to write a letter to the editor about my Grandma seeing bear cubs, going to great pains to use the word astonishing. Since my kids have been old enough to read, it has been a constant in our home, and there is always great rejoicing when we find one in the mailbox. So much to learn, things to draw, interesting animals to find out about, beautiful pictures – it really is a delight.
I will do the drawing next Tuesday for four different winners. Nature Friend has been so kind as to offer a coupon for our readers who don’t win but want to get the magazine all the same. You can see that info on their website, here.
They are also offering a deal right now where every subscription gets you entered in a drawing for a pair of $300 binoculars – one pair for every 50 subscriptions, so your chances of winning are pretty good! You can find out more about that on their website – when you go to sign up, which you totally should!I am sure your kids will enjoy it as much as mine!