I had a great question from a dad about what I thought when it comes to taking his sons to the public pool. So after chewing on this and talking with my husband about it (who has a related article over on his blog), I’m ready to tackle this. So here it goes.
If you take your son to the public pool, you had better be teaching him before, during, and after about what is going on with all the nearly naked people splashing about. And you had better make sure that he is getting the lesson and not just studying the subjects.
But if you are not up to it, either because it is such a workout and totally not worth it, then don’t go. Or if you don’t mind the teaching aspect, but the temptations to look and lust are too great, then stay home.
Sons need to be taught to be leaders. You don’t want sons who just take it all in, or sons who disapprove of it all but still participate in a way hard to distinguish from the ones taking it all in. But if all the girls are wearing immodest swimwear, and if he is hanging out with them as though it doesn’t matter, then he isn’t growing up to be a leader. If he is rebuking them all for their attire, then he is possibly just being a jerk.
The thing you want your son to do is to ignore the girls who are immodestly dressed, especially the Christian girls. And then when they come ask him why he isn’t hanging out with them, he is in a great position to tell them the truth: “Because I don’t want people to think that I am the kind of guy who hangs out with girls dressed like that.”
Hope that helps.