When we think about our condition, station, or situation in life, there are many things that we simply cannot change. However, there are always some things that we can change and we should consider changing.
Consider our spiritual condition. We can change our behavior and our bad habits. We can cultivate new habits and ask God to give us the grace to change our behavior. We can put things right, seek forgiveness, make restitution, and confess our sins. We are always to be pressing on, laying hold, and gaining ground. 2 Peter 1:5-8 tells us to be diligent to add one virtue to another. We are not to stand still or stand around.
Consider our station in life. We cannot choose our parents, but we can choose to honor them better than we have in the past. We can choose our friends, and we can choose a spouse. We can decide to learn a new skill and look for a way to use our gifts. We can change our outlook and our attitude. We can change our wardrobe and change the curtains and rearrange the furniture, all for the better. We can improve our mind by reading a book or taking a class.
God has given us dominion over the earth, so we can change the way the garden looks, pulling out the weeds and planting shrubs and trees and flowers. It’s so satisfying to see the result of our labors. God says that this is good. It is a restoration project.
But what about our own physical appearance? Can we change the way we look? Should we? God is removing every spot and blemish from His bride, so it follows that we should be doing the same thing, both spiritually and physically.
God obviously wants us to beautify and improve the world, and that includes us too. We can view some of these things the same way we view the garden: we are just pulling weeds and planting flowers. Of course, if we are changing things that God likes the way they are to things God doesn’t like, then, no, we shouldn’t do it at all. We shouldn’t make things worse! For example, if God says a gray head is a crown of glory, then we should believe what He says. That doesn’t mean a woman should never change her hair color, but it does mean that God likes old age better than we do.
Some things we can change are simple matters that have big results, but we are often too timid to try. What would happen if we lost weight, got our teeth straightened, took the acne medicine, and removed the facial hair? These are improvements, and these are all things we can change to make ourselves more beautiful. If these are spots and blemishes, why not change them? If the barn needs painting, paint it.
Okay, of course some of women are going to go overboard here. They’re going to rush for the breast implants and the tummy tucks. I’m not saying there is never a time for such radical measures. The point is to be a servant of God, not to play God. But generally, many of us could make big changes for the better without going to such extremes. God has given us some things we can’t change, and He has given us some things we can change.
The status quo can get very comfortable. Change can require work and expense. Getting your lip waxed or your teeth straightened is a commitment, and it may seem intimidating at first. But the end result will be that everyone will enjoy your smile much more than they ever have before. Joining weight watchers may seem like a last ditch effort, but it makes sense to get help if you need it. So many lovely, lively women are carrying around fifty pounds of extra weight. Taking it off would seriously lighten their load and beautify them and probably prolong their life. Most of these women hate the weight, but are used to hiding under it. This is something they could change, and if not now, when?
God has given us stewardship over ourselves in many ways. We are to take heed to our souls. We are to govern our passions. We are to care for our own bodies. We are to steer, not drift. Mothers, while your children are still at home, help them with this. If you don’t talk to your daughter about these things, who will? Maybe you don’t notice it anymore, but everyone else does. And you can’t say, “Well, God made her teeth that way and it would be sin to fix them.” If that is the case, then why do we try to beautify anything? Why paint the barn or fix the broken fence?
What things can you change that need changing? Don’t wait till January 1 to make a new resolution. Why not jump on it now?