When God created Adam and Eve and placed them in the Garden, the place was full of fruit and delights, and they were invited to enjoy themselves. In the midst of all those invitations to enjoyment was one forbidden tree. Only one.
When God wrote down His commandments, He gave us only ten. And those ten could be summarized in two: Love the Lord with all you have, and love your neighbor as yourself.
We parents, on the other hand, do just the opposite. Rather than imitating our Father in Heaven, we lay down rule after rule, command after command. We would do well to consider what it is we are creating, whether it is modeled after the Garden or modeled after some dungeon in the bad place.
My husband grew up in a family where his parents understood this. His father laid down three rules: obey your parents, do not lie, and do not sass your mother. Now the first one, obey your parents, could become a burden if the parents were firing off commands right and left, day and night as some parents do. I have seen it with my own eyes. “Pick up your shoe, put it on, pull up your sock, look at me when I talk to you, now stand up….etc.”
Jesus called His disciples to take up His yoke, and He said they would find rest rest there. He said His yoke was easy and His burden was light (Mt. 11:28-30). Parents sometimes load their children up with heavy burdens, much like the Pharisees of old.
So consider how many rules in your home are not really for your children, but for yourself. Consider reducing the number. Consider reducing the commands. Lighten the load. Be like Jesus who was meek and lowly of heart, who told His disciples to learn from Him.