We mothers are tempted in many ways, but one of those ways is to be worriers. What do we worry about? Oh, we are very imaginative! If we don’t have any real situations on our hands, we can come up with all kinds of potential stuff to worry about.
Now, worry is bad for us. And it’s bad for our kids. It’s an uglifying sin (like all the rest of them). Worry is antithetical to biblical femininity. It is never pretty. It sucks the joy out of our lives, disturbs our peace, and disrupts a gentle and quiet spirit.
How do you know if you are worrying? A worry always begins with “What if…?” And you cannot answer that kind of question. So don’t ask it, don’t listen to it, and don’t get in a discussion over it. Ignore it and let it go find somewhere else to roost.
Worry is “loving concern” gone amok. It is unproductive, unhelpful, self-centered, and is one of the ways women can tear down their houses (see Proverbs 14:1). Worry may look like it is thinking of others, but that is a deception. Worry is really all about me. I want to be in charge of this situation, and I don’t want to trust God to oversee it. I want to talk about it all the time to everyone: Let me get out all my pet worries to play with.
Mothers can chase their kids away with worry. Who wants to be worried and fretted over? Kids don’t. Adult kids don’t. Worry makes them feel crowded. They will look for more space somewhere far away.
The way to help your kids is to quit worrying. Pray for them. Help them. Show them how. But don’t worry over them.
If they are sick, take care of them. If they are hungry, feed them. If they are late, wait up for them. But don’t worry. Jesus says that we may not. It doesn’t help a bit. It only makes the waiting uncomfortable.
Some women worry over real issues: health issues or spiritual issues or money issues or marriage issues or wisdom issues. But other women worry over what might be an issue in ten years. This is called borrowing trouble. It’s not pretty and it’s not cute.
Trust is lovely. Peace is beautiful. Cast your cares on Him for He cares for you, and He cares for your kids. Don’t worry over them. Pray over them. This will cause them to draw near. Worry sets them up to pull away.