As we go through our Christian lives, year to year, all kinds of different situations arise. Could be big blessings, bigger than you imagined. Could be difficulties, trials, and unexpected challenges. Could be both. In all these things we should look for our duties as Christian women. Are you grieving? How should a Christian woman grieve? Did you just inherit a million dollars? How should a Christian woman manage such wealth? Are you lonely, busy, sick, or exhausted? What are your duties? This is a very helpful perspective to adopt in all God’s dealings with us.

If you are childless, what are your duties? First of all, you are called to be a helper for your husband. That is what God says every husband needs, and you are uniquely suited to be that helper for your own husband. So, what kind of help does your husband need? How can you assist him in accomplishing what God has called him to do? Think about this. Maybe you even need to talk about this with your husband.

You can safely assume that he needs emotional support, your admiration and respect. He needs to know that you appreciate him and are grateful for all he does. He needs a home, an oasis that is a comfort and recharger. He may need your input, feedback, ideas, and a zillion little things to make his work go more efficiently and effectively. You know Read More

From time to time I talk with married women who are eager to be fruitful and multiply, but God has not yet blessed them with children. It can be difficult and confusing. Questions arise like, “Am I barren permanently?” or “Is God punishing me?” or “Why are we not having kids when everyone else seems to do this so effortlessly?” So I’m going to begin a few posts on this tender subject.

First a few observations about the modern mindset. Frequently, newlyweds practice birth control for the first year or two because one or both are in school or because husband’s job needs to get on a more solid footing, or simply because they have been told that they should wait a year so they can “get to know each other.” Whatever the reason for the delay (and they may have entirely valid reasons), there is an assumption of fertility, that they’ll be able to have babies whenever they desire. And though they may not realize it, this attitude can border on presumption. You just don’t know how fertile you are when you get married. You may be diligently preventing conception not knowing that you are one of those women who may have a harder time conceiving.

I always advise women to stay off the pill, not because I am an expert on the effects of the pill, but because I’ve talked to lots of women who have had a hard time getting Read More