Recently there was a great little post about 5 questions husbands should ask their wives. Good questions.
Of course I starting thinking about what kind of questions we wives should ask our husbands, but more than that, I immediately thought of questions we should not ask them. Here are five questions a wife should never, in my opinion anyway, ask her husband. (And if you already have, I hope you just laugh at yourself now that I bring it up and not get mad at me.)
#1 Do you think I am fat?
What a terrible question! You should figure out the answer yourself by looking in the mirror or checking the scale, because if he says, ” Yes, dear, you are a little pudgy,” he’s automatically in the doghouse. How insensitive! If he says,”No” (like a good husband should), he may still be in trouble if you think he might be fudging. Other questions in this category include, “Do I look old? Am I ugly?” Ugly? No. Stupid? Yes.
#2 Do you think Susie (or Sandy or Sally) is attractive?
If he says, “Yes, she’s gorgeous,” then what? Most of the time the next question is, “Do you think she’s prettier than I am?” Now we have gone from bad to worse! Now he’s in an impossible situation, and you are being way too self-absorbed. But if he hems and haws (“Well, I’m not really sure. She’s kind of pretty I think…”) then you’ll be tempted to think he’s not being honest. What possible good can come from having this conversation?
#3 Do you think I’m the most beautiful woman in the world, to you?
This is connected to question #2 above. Really? Seriously? Do husbands have to think their wives are more beautiful than any other woman? I don’t think so. And if you are really thinking of asking this, you are way, way too self-absorbed. A good husband should point this out.
#4 Did you miss me today?
“Ummmmm….” I am betting that, quite honestly, he did not miss you. But it does not follow that therefore he does not love you. This kind of question just sets him up to look bad. What a jerk. He didn’t miss his wife. Not once all day. The truth is that he probably didn’t have time to miss you, and he knew he would see you after work.
#5 If I die, will you marry again?
Yikes! Some wives not only ask this question, they make helpful suggestions. “Barbara would make a good wife. Why don’t you marry her if I die?” If, in God’s providence, you die before your husband, it is not your business to set him up with wife #2. I can see asking him to marry someone who will be nice to your kids. But beyond that, let him sort it out with God. He doesn’t need your help. It just is weird.
Okay, so what would be some good questions to ask your husband? Try these out for size. But remember, you asked. So prepare yourself not to react to any answers. Receive them graciously and thankfully.
1. How can I pray for you today? (This one is stolen right off of the above list I linked to.)
2. What’s your favorite thing about coming home?
3. What’s one thing I could help you with that would lighten your load?
4. Can you remember anything you’ve asked me to do that I have not done?
5. What would be your ideal day off?