When women are eager to conceive a child, they must beware a few common temptations. Of course desiring children is a good thing and we ought to ask God for good things. But as you seek the Lord’s blessing of children, don’t lose perspective on the blessing He has already given you, and that is your husband.
A husband can begin to feel pretty beat up if his wife is unhappy about not conceiving. One husband I know of told his wife that he was beginning to feel like a stud service. Now that sounds pretty crude, but it is telling. The marriage bed should be a place of delight and rejoicing, and you don’t want it to become performance oriented. This puts undue pressure on the joys of lovemaking and can make a husband feel like a failure. Even if it is not technically his fault,Â he can feel responsible for his wife’s unhappiness in not having children.
In some cases, where couples have been “trying” to get pregnant and just getting themselves stressed out, I suggest they just pitch the calendar and the charts and go back to the beginning of simple enjoyment of one another. You want children to be the fruit of your love, not the product of stress and strain.