Â So, Hannah makes a fun point in the comments on the last post. Her question was concerning the border lines between when something is way over the line, Â and when it is generally accepted as normal. I think we all agree that things just change over time, and that Grandpa’s opinion about make-up is probably not so current. If you think about it though, if you were right on the historical line with make-up, when it was just spreading its wings beyond the brothel, what would say about it to your daughters? And after enough girls in the town were doing it that it wasn’t strictly the territory of the prostitutes, would you let them jump in? Â This line of thought made me realize something – this system is broken.
Why are the Christians sitting around waiting for the green light to follow the world? Why would we want to be part of doggedly chasing the world, making its rebellious trends safe for Christian homes? What is going on here? Hannah refers to the young fashion forward Christian girl with the nose stud, right on that border. Bothering some, and fitting right in with others. But I would not call it fashion forward, but rather trend-caboose.
Truly fashion forward activities lead change, but the world’s trends are always followed by Christians, never led. So let’s think about that.Â Should Christian fashion be huffing and puffing and trying to catch up with what California beach girls used to wear? Should we just sit around and wait until we are allowed to do what they do? Of course not. Post-millenially speaking, we should be doing our own thing. We should be raising our daughters surrounded by beauty, engaging their minds in their fashion decisions, and keeping them emotionally unattached to the world. We want daughters who can think and dress for themselves, not just wear whatever they get in the garbage bag of hand-me-downs from the world. In the long, long, longÂ run, Christian fashion should be its own dog, with little pagan girls saying, “Please, please can I wear this mom? I don’t think it makes me look too much like a Christian girl.”
But here is the other thing, and I think it is critically important. There have been some responses to these posts that were a little upset that we would march right through the middle of such a tender subject and ever say anything that might make some of the girls with nose studs feel talked about. Those were the brave people, who commented. I know there was also a intake of breath and perhaps hurt feelings here and there about what we have said. So I want to emphasize again, that this is not a discussion of individual nose rings. Not that I want to be rude, but I honestly couldn’t care less. Hannah mentioned that it is increasingly common in our sister church (and while I am aware of it as a trend, I could never type up a roster of people who have them).
This is discussion ofÂ a cultural trend that we are in the middle of witnessing, and not a slam session on the individual ladies who are wearing them.Â And here is something rather important: we are in the middle of witnessing this trendÂ alongside of our children. What do we say to them about it? What do we believe about it? Are we allowed to have an opinion? Are we allowed to talk about it? In public? Well, the nose rings are worn in public. They started the conversation. And apparently the conversation they started is persuasive. Our children ask about it. We have to have an answer.
Now, you can easily have a different answer for the same question and still be our friend, in fellowship with us, and we may even think you pull the nose stud off rather well. But if you have a nose ring and you have worn it out of the house, you have made a public statement, and if someone says, “Hey, let’s talk about this a bit more. I don’t think it is a great idea,” you have to remember who brought it up. You have to remember that you are the one advancing it.
So if you want to defend it, do. If you don’t want toÂ talk about it, don’t. If you want to get angry and feel hurt that anyone would say something out loud about it, reflect on how public your nose is. You made it a canvas for all of us to look at. You put some text out on that particular billboard, so don’t stress out about its privacy now!