So, in thinking of how to respond to a couple of the comments on my last post about the crazy- town activities at our house, I realized that there is a lot to say. It is not that I have this material mastered by any stretch of the imagination, but I do spend a lot of time thinking about it! It is actually something that I work on every day, so I may as well just share some things that have been helpful to our family as we navigate these busy years.
If you are just joining us, I have four little dinks, and our oldest and wisest will be five in the late fall. So no, I do not magically coast through the days with tender smile on my face bringing cookies on doilies to the children who are wearing tastefully chosen ensembles, and sitting on a monogrammed picnic blanket. You are more likely to find me calling a meeting to discuss the use of the shower curtain as a hand towel ( a meeting conducted while trying to chip up Cheerios that have dried on the floor under the table), or trying to explain why I put an end to pulling each other around at breakneck speeds on a tablecloth tied to a jump rope.
Life is not smooth or scenic a lot of the time, but it is happy and funny, and full of things I never expected but couldn’t live without. Probably the most helpful things that I concentrate on are perspective adjustments. When there is a behavioral problem, a disobedience issue, or a particularly difficult or tiring stretch with my children, I know it is time for a perspective adjustment. Time to sit down, think about what is going on, look at my initial reaction to it honestly, and then turn that reaction Â on its head. So far, I haven’t found a situation where this did not clean everything up quickly. Here are a few examples, based on my own real-life encounters with young children! Read More