The aged women in Titus 2:3-5 are to behave like holy women. That’s pretty straight forward, right? But Paul continues with some specifics because he thought the aged women might want some practical hints.
First, not false accusers. Older women are to watch what they say, careful to safeguard information that is confidential, and particularly not passing on false accusations. Women are sometimes tempted to attribute motives, and it is tempting to pass on their own opinions as though they were the actual facts of the case.
Second, not given to much wine. I suppose older women may have more leisure time to indulge in wine and that is why they are singled out for this exhortation. Older women are to be temperate, setting a good example for the younger generations. So older women are not to be party animals, not to always have a glass of wine in their hands. They are to be sober (serious); they are to be wise.
Third, they are to teach good things. The aged women are to be busy teaching the younger women good things. This doesn’t necessarily mean a class room setting. They may be teaching their own daughters and granddaughters, as well as other younger women with whom they have opportunity.
What kind of good things are they to teach? Things about the feminine calling: loving their husbands and kids, how to be discreet, how to be chaste, how to keep house, how to be obedient to their (own) husbands. In other words, the aged women are to be showing the younger women how to build their houses and not tear them down.
Of course the older women are not fit to teach these things unless they themselves are doing them. The older woman is to remember her first calling to be her husband’s helper, to love and obey her own husband. This means a mid-life crisis won’t work, deciding she just is not “in love” anymore. Those low points call for loyalty and fidelity, not resignation and divorce.
Loving the kids seems like the easy part, but this requires wisdom and self-discipline, stamina and resolve. And even when the kids are grown, a mom is still a mom, her love still needed, though it may be expressed in different ways than when the kids were little.
Discretion means good judgment and young women, married and unmarried, need to be taught to be wise, to be circumspect, not rash or impulsive. A life-long chasteness means purity before marriage and fidelity after marriage.
Home-keeping is a vast undertaking and young women need encouragement, help, reinforcement, and training to do it well. The older women have the experience to offer, and there are many subjects they may be able to teach, from knitting to cooking to gardening.
When the aged women are obedient to their own husbands, they are setting a great example for future generations. And when women sin against what they know to be true, they are in a sense giving covenantal permission to their own children and grandchildren to do the same. This goes back to the beginning: the aged women are to be holy.