I thought I would post a couple things that have been on my mind lately, things that have helped me get that all important right perspective as I fumble (flit? stagger? dream-walk?) through days with a house full of small kids. I know I am not the only one here who is in that situation, so maybe what has been helping me would be of some use to you too.
The first thing, that really is a comfort is this: the only thing that absolutely MUST be organized in our home is my attitude. If that gets a little cluttered, or retains sticky rings from juice with a little dusting from the bottom of the toaster, then all the dry erase boards and fridge cleaning schedules in the world will not make this house fun to be in. On the other hand, if I can keep my attitude stacked in Rubbermaid bins, neatly lableled in the closet, then no matter what is going on in the house, we are doing fine. The kids may be falling apart and needing me all at once, but the only thing separating a clumsy moment from a complete “daddy has to come home from work” disaster is always my attitude. Not that this thought offers a solution to domestic chaos, but it helps me know where to start!
The second thing occurred to me the other day on a particularly ripe morning. You know that wonderful story about the widow making bread with the last of her oil for Elijah? I was realizing that if I hold back on what I give my kids because I feel like there won’t be enough to go around (I am not talking about love or affection, just energy!), then there usually isn’t. But if I start out the morning pouring, the oil just keeps coming all day long. I don’t know if you have experienced this, but the days when you just try to “manage” the kids turn into the most exhausting, wretched days for everyone. On the other hand, if you get up in the morning with a “let’s make play-dough” attitude, everything seems to go better.
One of the lovely things about the story of the widow is that the miracle does not happen until you start to pour in faith. If you just sit in your bedroom waiting to feel full, it is just not going to happen. This kind of jug only fills while it is pouring, and there really will be enough to go around!