After I had a few Motherâ€™s Days under my belt, I began to suspect that the whole thing was one big set up to see how many mothers could get out of fellowship on Mothersâ€™ Day. If it wasnâ€™t for all our Hallmark expectations, we might just appreciate a card or a Happy Mothersâ€™ Day hug from the kids. But, oh no, the build up is to expect breakfast in bed, flowers, cards, gifts, lunch and dinner prepared, etc. Kind of like a day in spa-ville. And this is quite a tall order for any father of little kids to pull off, and it is tough for big kids to pull off as well. Now I know there are the exceptions to the rule. But we must have our eyes open and our guards up on Mothersâ€™ Day, lest we fall into the great temptation of disappointment.
Mothersâ€™ Day is good. It is good to remember our mothers and thank them for all their labor that they have bestowed on us. Mothersâ€™ Day is good for children. It is an opportunity for them to express gratitude, and gratitude is good. Mothersâ€™ Day is not hazardous to children. No. It is hazardous to mothers. Unless, that is, they have prepared themselves not to expect anything in particular.
Now my children have always been good to me on Mothersâ€™ Day. Sweet and endearing little remembrances spring to mind: the time my older daughter teamed up with a friend and they took us two moms to lunch with all their saved allowance money. That was adorable. And how could I forget the goose cookie jar or the sweet homemade cards? That is what itâ€™s all about. But I would be a big hypocrite if I did not admit a few Mothersâ€™ Days when I had built up in my mind something quite larger than what actually happened. Thatâ€™s why I say that Mothersâ€™ Day is hazardous for moms. I remember a woman seeing my Mothers’ Day flowers and grumbling something about how her family never did any thing like that for her. So we can be stumbled, and we can stumble each other. Yikes!
So hereâ€™s your heads up. Take it easy. Forget that itâ€™s Mothersâ€™ Day. Let the kids remember. And if they donâ€™t, donâ€™t take offense. Donâ€™t get annoyed at your husband (youâ€™re not his mother anyway). Just make a point on Mothersâ€™ Day to remember your own mother! That way, if you keep your head down, you wonâ€™t get clobbered by unrealistic expectations.